Psychology Today: Rock Around the Doc: Metallica in Therapy
What's a band to do when they just feel a bit lost, like they aren't seeing one another for who they REALLY are anymore? Why, hit the couch of course. Sorry groupies, wait outside.
Let me say for the record that I sincerely applaud Metallica for not only their decision to seek help but, even more courageous, to go public with it to help others. With that said, I really just can't help laughing my arse off at quotes like these... Just waiting to turn on Oprah and watch them passing tissue boxes around. It just feels so.... 'This is Spinal Tap'.
Lars: "...it happened so naturally. Phil opened that door. It was amazing to sit there with people who you'd spent over half your life with and get to know them for the first time, get to love them for the first time."
James: "I know that we created some type of spark with our negative energy, and I know we can do the same with our positive energy. We've used a lot of energy going nowhere. But as far as losing my edge, I feel I'm sharper than ever."
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Psychology Today: Intimacy: The Art of Relationships
Definitely a worthwhile read... here's a brief excerpt from the intro:
"...most of what goes wrong in a relationship stems from hurt feelings. The disappointment couples experience is based on misunderstanding and misperception. We choose a partner hoping for a source of affection, love, and support, and, more than ever, a best friend. Finding such a partner is a wonderful and ecstatic experience--the stage of illusion in relationships, it has been called.
...there then sets in the state of disillusion. We somehow don't get all that we had hoped for. He didn't do it just right. She didn't welcome you home; she was too busy with something else; maybe she didn't even look up. But we don't have the skills to work out the disappointments that occur. The disappointments big and little then determine the future course of the relationship."
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Psychology Today: Relationship Rules
The author suggests printing these out and keeping them on your refrigerator as a reminder. After reading through them, I must say I'd agree. A few favorites:
* Know your needs and speak up for them clearly. A relationship is not a guessing game. Many people, men as well as women, fear stating their needs and, as a result, camouflage them. The result is disappointment at not getting what they want and anger at a partner for not having met their (unstated) needs. Closeness cannot occur without honesty. Your partner is not a mind reader.
* View yourselves as a team, which means you are two unique individuals bringing different perspectives and strengths. That is the value of a team--your differences.
* Know how to manage differences; it's the key to success in a relationship. Disagreements don't sink relationships. Name-calling does. Learn how to handle the negative feelings that are the unavoidable byproduct of the differences between two people. Stonewalling or avoiding conflicts is NOT managing them.
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Workplace Vocabulary
Funny stuff. A few examples...
TESTICULATING: Waving your arms around and talking Bollocks."
ASSMOSIS: The process by which people seem to absorb success and advancement by sucking up to the boss rather than working hard.
PRAIRIE DOGGING: When someone yells or drops something loudly in a cube farm, and people's heads pop up over the walls to see that's going on. (This also applies to applause from a promotion because there may be cake.)
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Oh... ummm...uhh... I guess boys can use it too...
Marie Claire's pick as their "favourite new website."
"In an online first, you can pick the model which looks most like you, pick the underwear you like the most and then your model will try it on for you, strut up and down the catwalk so you can see the knickers from both the front and back. What's more, there's free delivery on all orders and brands on offer include Calvin Klein, Damaris and Princess Tam Tam.For the men in your life, there's also a boys' buying guide. Why not send him the link?"
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So how excited am I to finally be a trendsetter? Very. Long before this list was published, I already had Poo and Pee sitting on my desk in prep for my son's potty training adventures. It's hard to believe I am, indeed, that cool. So I posted a photo above to prove it. So there.
Also filed in the WTF? folder? The teddy bear gun (yep, fires bears at kids) and the sled. Yes, it is a sled. For children. Baffling, eh?
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"What are the World's Cheesiest Love Songs?
Hmmm... Well, it's a matter of debate, but this playlist is at the very least a great start in getting to the bottom of it. A fine collection of gooey, bowel-clogging slag that can provide the foundation for your own personal love fondue.
There have been more cheesy love songs written than most would ever care to hear, but don't fret. We've filtered out anything with even the tiniest amount of artistic credibility to help create the ultimate in love song trumpery. Only the most sappy, overproduced, pop hit fromage has been included.
This playlist works it two diametrically opposed manners. The first is as a group of emotionally charged tear-jerkers that will truly appeal to some percentage of the population. You know the type. These are the people that will be the first to die in the initial chaos that ensues when Armageddon unfolds.
The second is as a satirical look into the very worst of pop music that will make being alone on Valentine's day seem like the better choice.
I have not ordered the list as many of these songs are true equals in their woe."
I think I'll let their description speak for itself.
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"We often assume that true understanding is conveyed through spoken speech rather than gesture, but new research shows that "talking with your hands" can not only reveal different information than spoken language, it can be both more correct and yield better learning."
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Caffeine is the most widely used stimulant in the world, but few use it to maximal advantage. Get optimally wired with these tips.
Definitely one of the more useful articles I've read on how to show the Joe who's boss and make it really work for you. To get you started, here's your first hit:
1) Consume in small, frequent amounts.
Between 20-200mg per hour may be an optimal dose for cognitive function.
Caffeine crosses the blood-brain barrier quickly (owing to its lipid solubility) although it can take up to 45 minutes for full ingestion through the gastro-intestinal tract. Under normal conditions, this remains stable for around 1 hour before gradually clearing in the following 3-4 hours (depending on a variety of factors).
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In leaving a comment for someone, I was just backhanded by the Ghost of Fabulously Random Gifts Past and remembered an old friend sitting on a shelf in my office. Fun times. Many many fun times.
I give these my highest rec.....
And as an aside, if lederhosen are "your thing" ( let's face it, you ARE still reading this) here's an article about Luxury Lederhosen that might interest you....
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20412240/
One of my NEW FAVORITE THINGS! Paul Anka- yes, I know, I too was shocked he made my very elusive NFT list as well- doing covers (and good ones!) of such alternative hits as "Mr. Brightside" and "Smells Like Teen Spirit." When I put the latter on my myspace site as the profile song, the response was outstanding.
Toss this in the CD tray at a party and it's a guaranteed showstopper. Just grab your martini and watch as people's expressions change once they begin to realize they recognize the song he's singing. It's like all brain motion stops for a nanosecond while their minds struggle to absorb the dichotomy. Fabulous.
Check out Paul singing "Smells Like Teen Spirit" on YouTube. I don't care what kind of music you usually listen to- hearing Anka croon "Oh no! I know a dirty word!" is titter-worthy.
Smells Like Teen Spirit Video
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Lottery: A tax on people who are bad at math.
Not all who wander are lost.
Save The Whales. Collect The Whole Set!
Talk only if you can improve on the silence.
Women fly when men aren’t watching.
Little piece of advice. Your honker's cute in person. Peephole? Not your friend.
I'm sorry, did I interupt you eating your baby?
I'm allergic to felt.
While you're at it, why don't you become a superhero? Captain Neck Fat.
Take a SWAG at it- Scientific Wild-Ass Guess.....
I didn't see anything but the Tweetie Bird on his ass.....
Oh my God. It's finally happened. The Botox has seeped into your brain.
Follow the bread crumbs, Gretel.
First I was victimized by a grizzly. And now you.
This is even more disturbing than your bag full of Mommy.
Always be sure they have their meds before you do anything else.
It takes a dark night to bring out the stars.
"If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than it was because he was he and I was I." Michel Montaigne
I found I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way-- things I had no words for". -Georgia O'Keeffe
The mind is like a parachute -it works best when it is open.
"None. None more black...."
If we only used things for their intended purpose, we would not be where we are today.
I knew it was too bad to be true....
"--Love doesn't end because we no longer see each other. People go on all their lives loving God, don't they, without ever seeing Him.
--That's not my kind of love.
--Maybe there's no other kind."
--I'm jealous of everything that moves. I'm jealous of the rain. "The End of the Affair"
A hero ain't nothing but a sandwich.
Where are they from? God only knows. Randomly overheard, uttered by clever (and often inebriated) friends, my own lacking-7 second-delay mouth, Scrubs, Ugly Betty, Grey's Anatomy, Monty Python.... pretty much a hodgepodge.
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